Depression Dementia Dad

[Former-Member]

Still can't get them to serve afternoon tea properly. Is it really too much to ask tjim to provide him with an APPLE instead of swert biscuitbiscuit? (diabetic and all). Andvtoo much to give him two sweeteners so he actually likes his drink GRR! Today the pretty young thing handed him x2 cream centre biscuits and said she can't access the kitchen to get the fruit would he like 2 dry sao. Told her I'd go yo his room & get an apple from the fruit I bring in for him. I think my disgust showed. I don't have any patience for such incometence. I know their LITTLE non life threatening things bit he had all this at home and they can't even keep a list on the tea trolley... Poor dad 😞  frustrates / angers me. I've raised these thing switch the ADOC. Not being his 'guardian' appears to have taken away my voice for him, a disrespect. Doesn't help that they think I didn't 'get it' because of something I did wrong. 'Family Conflict' is something I cannot control but enough to cut the WHOLE family out of the picture, even the primary caregiver. Disgusting state of affairs. Gosh I must have bern the bossiest big sister for bro2&sis to harbour such resentment for decades. Definitely not the person they think I am. I simply can't control their their thoughts and actions. Think itscaits as simple as needing someone to blame for their neclect of mum & dad. Proof being - they don't even visit dad in the nursing home. 

Hey? Does the cabinet look OK guys? Any suggestions? Today i actually got to ask him if he likes it? "Yeah! did you do thatthat?" he said  🙂  nice moments.

He's doing OK 🙂

[Shaz51]

Cabinet, very nice @Former-Member

[Former-Member]

Blokey treasures in the cabinet, lovely @Former-Member

[Former-Member]

@Faith-and-HopeFaith-and-Hope

[outlander]

you done a great job with the cabinet @Former-Member and it sounds like your dad had a really good day out and about with you too

[Former-Member]

 Thank You guys! Still can't [ √ ]  posts but appreciate you 🙂

[outlander]

@Former-Member 🙂

[Smc]

@Former-Member, the cabinet looks good. 🙂 The home my parents are in supplies basic (nice basic) furniture, and family can bring in a few other pieces if they want, so my sister and I got some help to bring Dad's trophy cabinet in. We've put a selection of things in it that say something about who Dad is. Assorted trophies, a pottery vase he made years ago, famly photos, his shaving mug, a pottery port bottle. Little memoirs that we both wanted him to enjoy, and for them to be something that gave the staff a bit of an idea of his history. Looks like what you've done is similar. Very worthwhile!

[Former-Member]

How are you doing @Former-Member

[Former-Member]

Thanks @Smc @Former-Member. @outlander. And all interested. 

I'm soso today, just wanna be alone. Had a lot of palpitations and feeling 'fuzzy' all the time, forgetful, nearly crashed the car today, well actually did, into gutter, gave me a fright, just distracted. Its like everything's closing down, my life is closingvdown. Betta finish that Advanced Health Directive form with the Dr. Probably just blackdog haunting me, but I am a 'SENIOR' now. 

Had a discussion with Public Guardian yesterday, after going over her head because she has not returned my calls. I'm sure they see mevas a 'hostile' because I find them unnecessary and incompetent.

She finally tells me they made dad Permanent Placement two weeks ago, why? because the Respite hours offered for dad to come home were inadequate. WHAT A CROCK!  They all lie. When I asked dad's Director of Care if she knew, she said YES, they told us two weeks ago but didn't feel it was their place to tell me. Two weeks being treated like a mushroom. And I'm the one by dad's side every other day. I took him to the dentist today. He has a huge ulcer because they're not doing his denture care properly. I get so frustrated! And hurt by all this. Its ha d to hold itvalk in and not lash out, I dear if I do it will be KATAKLIZMIK!!!  lol