Am Not Coping

[Zoe7]

All little signs that are progressively showing up and playing on his mind perhaps @Faith-and-Hope - just need the doctor to begin joining the dots - I can certainly see why these things are scaring you.

How long are you in the west for this trip?

[Faith-and-Hope]

I actually have to come back in the middle for an induction, and also because our older kids have asked Mr.F&H to see more of him, and S2 wants to stay over east and pick up holiday work .... so the kids are staying where they are now, but mr. and I are swinging back and forth a couple of times.

Is your head spinning ?  Mine is .....

I also want to visit my Dad for a couple of days if I can, because it will be a while till I see him again.

[Zoe7]

Yes my head is spinning here just a little lol

It is great that S2 wants to pick up some holiday work though - that is huge progress @Faith-and-Hope 

It would be lovely if you could see you dad for a few days - especially if you can spend some time on the beach walking with him 

Is your induction just a day or spread over a few days?

[Faith-and-Hope]

Just a day @Zoe7, but I am also looking forward to some down time with S2.  

He feels the presence of his father, (bit like Luke Skywalker and Darth Vader .... lol) and because mr. has been afraid to leave him until now, there hasn’t been any relief from that.  Even when he has pulled out of social occasions, mr. has stayed at home with him, like it or not, because he has been afraid to let him out of his sight.

It will be good for both of them.

[Zoe7]

It will be good for both of them @Faith-and-Hope - and maybe showing that Mr is loosening the reigns in a really positive way - that is a big step!

Will be great for you too to have that one on one time with S2 - I can imagine that time has been very small yet precious up to now - and you can bond even more around your induction as well 

[Faith-and-Hope]

Mr wouldn’t have left S2, except that the other kids have demanded time with him, so this is him trying to tick all the boxes ..... and the change in S2’s situation could not have come at a better time, because he is effectively free to go knowing that S2 is now in a much better mental space with the support he is recieving from the uni.

@Zoe7

[Zoe7]

...and Mr's own realisation that S2 is doing everything he can to work with the support from the uni @Faith-and-Hope - that must be a relief for all of you 

[Faith-and-Hope]

S2 was baulking and panicking about it @Zoe7, and I managed to talk him around.  He was really brave and carried through, and is so relieved with the outcome .... it showed him a path to asking for help, but he was the one who had to actually do that, and it really paid off ..... thank God ❣️

[Zoe7]

The fact that he not only did it but there was such a good outcome will hopefully give him more confidence moving forward @Faith-and-Hope - it is such a big step to ask for help but when you do and help comes you are more likely to ask again ...we all know what that is like here 

[Faith-and-Hope]

Exactly @Zoe7.

When he asked for support at his previous uni he got the kick in the pants instead, in the form of being humiliated in the middle of a presentation in front of his entire cohort.  Along with what was happening at home, that resulted in the trauma he is facing up to now.  No small thing at all ....

And it was all part of triggering his mi.