Life after hospital

[outlander]

ive just realsied i havent done any of the homework ive been given by my psychologist yet and theres 4 tasks to do im worried about my pschologist appointment tomorrow and whats shes going to say about the BPD.

another thing im worried about is the fact that i have BPD

im not really sure what to keep doing, im abit lost at the moment and not really sure whats right or wrong 😞

[outlander]

@Former-Member
One of my triggers is actuallly mental health. Can you help me out as to why this could be.
I find it odd to have a trigger yet i have it...

[outlander]

hi guys @utopia@patrickT@Koko@BlueBay@Former-Member@Former-Member

if i put up my weekly shedule could you please help me work out where i can fit some 'me' time in there

[Former-Member]

Sure @outlander

[outlander]

thanks @Former-Member

ok give me a sec to type it all up

[Former-Member]

Waiting too

[outlander]

MONDAY

6-7- house cleaning and getting things ready for pop for the day

7-9- get kids ready for school and take them,

9-11- do the part time care horses

 i have until 12 to get home get changed then head to psych appointment. check in with pop, get in anything he needs.

1-2- psych appointment

wont get home until 3

3-430- do my own horse

430- onwards, taking care of pop, dinner, shower and bed

TUESDAY

7-9- kids stuff

930-1130-  part time care horses.

1130-2- care for pop, hopefully a podiatrist appointment, if have time ride sisters horse

2-4- ill have kids and caring for them, and caring for pop

4-6ish- my horses

aftre that- dinner shower, caring for pop, bed

WEDNESDAY

6-7- house jobs and getting things ready for pop

7-9 get kids off to school

9-11 paddock cleaning job

12-1- have a shower, get changed and travel to drs

1- drs appointment- usually a long wait

3- hopefully im out by then

3-7- do my horses and the part time care horses

7 onwards caring for pop and getting ready for bed and dinner etc

THURSDAY

7-9- kids stuff

9-11- psychiatrist appointment

12- 2- check in with pop and make sure hes ok, do house work and get things back in order

2-4- ill have the kids

4-7- part time care horses and my own horse

7 onwards- the usual stuff

FRIDAY

7-9 kids stuff

9-11- care for pop and macke sure everything in order, get some house work done

11-2- do part time care horses

2-4- ill have the kids

4-6- do my own horses

6 onwards- usal dinner shower care for pop, house work etc

SATURDAY/SUNDAY

i havent gotten that far yet as not sure if mums working or not yet.

this shedule may change a little bit but thatll only be not having the kids which will move my day down to a 5 oclock finish rather than 7

wow thats alot- how the heck am i managing all that!

and somewhere in there i have to fit in some me time and also the homework set by the psychologist each week-usually a daily thing

[outlander]

@Former-Member@Former-Member above msg

[Former-Member]

Monday 7-9: What are you actually doing? They are old enough to get themselves dressed, fed, pack their bag and get ready for school. You should just be supervising. I know it's not supportive to say this, but I took myself to school at their age, they can do it too!

4:30 onwards: Schedule half an hour for some relaxation/mindfulness/meditation and another hour for a pleasureable activity. In reality you have the whole evening free. It's making the most of this time. What do you do with your time in the evenings?

I have a suggestion. Have you heard of a food diary? You need to do a time dairy. For a week, take a detailed invintory about what you actually spend your time doing. I did this a few years ago and realised how much time I was wasting on facebook, staring into space and the like. The next step is to write up an hour by hour break down of your week and try and schedule everything in. And then you have to try to stick to it. It's hard, but can be very rewarding if you get into a routine.

Routine is key for me. It makes such a big impact on my productivity and my mood/mental health. 

This is my schedule. It's a bit full at the moment, so I need to cut it down quite a bit, but it's just to give you an idea. 

There are lots of other time hacks that i can recommend. For example, I get too tired to cook every night. I get home from work/uni/gym at 7/8pm and I'm just exhausted. So on Sundays I make up a few meals - pasta, curry, stew, soup etc and freeze them in portions, so all I need to do is  warm it up and steam some veggies and I have my meal done! 

[outlander]

Wow that is super organised @Former-Member !!!
Ill try the time schedule after the weekend cause its really jumbly on weekends.
But ill give it a go then break it down more