Living with Ourselves

[Sophia1]

hello all 

@Maggie

that reflection of self image...very powerful....

we can all use this concept...

@eudemonism  take a look back on here to the image that Maggie shared....hold onto that thought when having to deal with others who treat you with disrespect...

I am going to try and hold onto the image @Maggie when sharing time with certain extended family members...I shall just have to be careful not to burst out loud with laughter...

@Owlunar@Adge@outlander@Zoe7 @Maggie@eudemonism@Former-Member

[Zoe7]

Love that quote @Sophia1 - so often we react to how others are feeling and that just exacerbates the situation but acting with more a sense of peace can then be reflective for the other person to calm also.

[Maggie]

@Sophia1 Thankyou.

[outlander]

@Sophia1

[Sophia1]

@Zoe7 @outlander @Maggie@Owlunar@Adge@eudemonism@Former-Member@Former-Member

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@Zoe7 wrote:

Love that quote @Sophia1 - so often we react to how others are feeling and that just exacerbates the situation but acting with more a sense of peace can then be reflective for the other person to calm also.

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yes it is far easier to offer support to others than offer support to oneself..

I am certainly living testament to that...

[outlander]

very much so @Sophia1

[outlander]

@Sophia1 

[Zoe7]

We do often forget to attend to our own needs @Sophia1 espcially in interactions with others - whether that be lack of self-confidence or feeling rail-roaded by others - we often do not voice our own opinions/concerns/etc. and are left feeling like we have 'lost out' to a certain extent. Part of the 'art of conversation' is identifying the needs of others and reframing what they are saying in a positive context whilst also getting our point across in the same light. That is not easy to do and takes a lot of practice and skill. ...but once you 'master' it - it certainly helps with every interaction you have.

[Sophia1]

hello @Zoe7

I find the art of conversation a tricky one to articulate...

to me it differs with moods...circumstances...personalities...manners..

so many variables..

I believe the most important part of a two way conversation...is showing that you are clearly listening...

conversation is not as many people believe and portray....an exercise in talking at someone...

it can be a very pleasant...interesting...rewarding experience if interest and respect is shown on both sides...

I adjust my style of conversation to the individual...

these ideas work well for me..

we are all so different thank goodness...another factor in having an interesting conversation

[Zoe7]

I agree with everything you wrote @Sophia1 

I do get annoyed when people talk at others though and don't actually listen themselves - both listening and respect are essential in any 2 way conversation.

I tend to be more of a listening and only add something to the conversation if I actually have something to say - I think that is why I find it hard on here sometimes too - 'small talk' and talking for the sake of it are not things I enjoy at all. I am happy with silence and often find that more uplifting than talking.