Living with Ourselves

[Zoe7]

I love the pool @Sophia1 - looks so quiet and inviting - I don't think I would ever get out of that one if it was in my backyard!

I have been looking at pools closer to my house today - most are too busy or too expensive - I have to weigh up the costs of travel as well as the membership fees for a couple that are a little further out but seem a lot quieter. I do like the pool that I am going to for hydrotherapy but there is someone there that runs the learn to swim program that is a problem for me - I did not expect this person to be there - definitely was a shock and the times I will be able to go are during the day are when they will be there so the search may have to continue a bit more. 

Glad to hear you have done a little drawing - I would love to see what you have produced but I understand if you don't feel like you can share the caricatures here 

Over thinking is something I do a lot too and it usually is never as bad as I think something will be but that doesn't stop my mind racing ahead at the worst possible scenario - I suppose this is learnt behaviour from so many things that have happened over my life time that I had no control over - part of MI also!

I gave Toby a good talking to after he ran off - grabbed him and wouldn't put him down actually - was more worried about a car coming around the corner and hitting him more than myself - you could say I was protecting my little buddy rather than the other way around in this instance. I couldn't imagine anything happening to him - that would totally destroy me. But he is okay and it just means a setback for my back to heal a little and become stronger - and I am back on pain meds to get through the day and not just the night - that is not something I wanted to do as I don't want to get more reliant on them but I need to in the short term to help me get through the day. Hopefully tomorrow it has settled a little more and I won't need them again - have to wait and see.

I hope you are taking care of yourself and not being so hard on yourself - I know that is not always easy to do but that is my wish for you. 

[Sophia1]

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@eudemonism wrote:

@Sophia1

I suppose it's not just about living with ourselves. It's also about living with others. Would you agree? I say this... Because, I figure there's only so long we can be on our own... Before we have to face other people... 

Eude 

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Yes I agree @eudemonism

learning to live with ourselves...get to know our true selves..accept our differences to others ...spend some time liking our own company..some time enjoying the company of others..accepting their differences..

quite a mouthful..

then when are my responses brief?...

Is this what you were meaning?

[Sophia1]

Hello @Zoe7

I can certainly understand your fear around Toby running into traffic...

put those thoughts right out of your mind now..He is safe...

Not good about certain person being at hydrotherapy pool...

Noisy crowded pools are not as conducive to therapy either..

as long as the distance there and back is not too far ..sounds like a preferred option..

once warmer months are here again..you might have more options..

a bit cold for the beach!

As far as pain medication ..new pain so beat to take in early days...

when do you see physiotherapist again?

[Sophia1]

Ps @Zoe7

yes I am still being very hard on myself..

I showed sketches to husband..

He is a tough critic as is good at drawing...painting...

He actually thought they were good..

So I need to get myself fit enough to a attend art group...

take care

[Appleblossom]

An art group is a terrific goal @Sophia1  

I have spent time as a water baby but its far too cold for me atm.  However I think I am inspired by you all to get back on my rehab horse and focus on it seriously again. I had to give it a break and do music as I thought I would become an automaton.

Cheers @Zoe7 @eudemonism @Adge @Shaz51

[Maggie]

@Sophia1 Dropping in a hi. Reading along is all I can do at the moment. Warm thoughts.💜💕💛

[Zoe7]

@Sophia1 Seeing physiotherapist again Tuesday. Only doing pool session once a week at the moment - too much to do it more. I also need to be very careful with money so once a week is all I can afford right now. 

Glad you showed your drawings to your husband and he though they were good  Getting yourself fit enough to attend art groupagain is something to work towards @Sophia1 and that is a really positive goal to have 

Hi @Appleblossom I never used to be a water baby when I was younger but love it now - could spend all day in the water if it was warm enough!

Hi @Maggie always lovely to see you even if it is just for a moment Hon 

[eudemonism]

@Sophia1 

I figure it's more about living with others than living with ourselves... Meaning, it's other people who define us... It's other people who make our lives worth living... It's other people who hold up the scoreboard about our existences... It's other people who pass judgement on us... It's other people who have got us into our circumstances... 

Eude 

[Sophia1]

Hello @Maggie

Thank you for your response...this in itself takes ups so much energy on days when a person has little and dwindling motivation...

Reading through quite a few posts is also tiring...I find sometimes I get to the second or third and forgotten what was said in the former...

Staying in the background is a way of self caring as in real life I withdraw....I know that you are very self aware and know all of this...

I just am hoping to reassure you that I understand and expect no more of you....

I have been feeling the same at times over the last number of weeks...just knowing that the forums are still here in the background has a safety net aspect for me....I think that this is the case for others who stay in the background at times as well...

reading along is still away of feeling a part of the conversations...

ps   I wrote a lengthier reply and then thought that perhaps you are not up to reading my essays at present...

let me know how you are progressing...whether or not you would prefer a brief response as an acknowledgement...or words from my rambling mind to read and distract...

sending you warm thoughts...some sunshine and hoping that you have a little spot in the garden that you can visit and feel a connection....

[Sophia1]

Hello @eudemonism

My husband and I often have discussions where our opinions differ.....we continue to talk...listening to each other...then sometimes wording our opinions differently for the other to see our own point of view from a different aspect...sometimes one of us will like the other's perspective and continue to talk along that line.....at other times...neither of us agree with each other....at this stage we agree to disagree...

this is a very tricky concept for some people...as they feel that their opinion is the "right answer"...they have to have the last world...

For me this is a form of debating....I love debating....I have only met a handful of people who think along these lines...

most people label the discussion as being opinionated...they are not listening intently...

This leads me to your response: I see "living with ourselves" from a different perspective....

It is good that you have voiced your thoughts...your opinion...mine being different ...does not make either of us right or wrong...just looking at the meaning differently...

Have you ever had conversations where you have voiced "let's agree to disagree on this point"...sensing that another or others are starting to feel upset/undermined?