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[Faith-and-Hope]

[Bubbles3]

                    MY MOTHER

so my mum, she is a loverly woman , dont get me wrong but something has change over the last month that has annoyed me.

so a month ago i end in hospital because i was very mentally unwell. 

i was in there for a week. 

my mum, didnt bother to come and see me ..... she did have time to.....and she didnt even send me any messages or phone calls to see how im going or what was happening.

while i was in there , it really upset me because i had know one there for me. and in say no one, i mean i had hubby and the kids but we try not let them see that side of the darkness (in the mental health ward) so i had no one. i had one person visit me the whole time . so it was lonely.

a month later (like just now) i get a message from mum asking how im doing with the new meds. 

let me say something else to ......... she lives 1 minute down the road from me.

i havent heard from her up until now. im in shock that she has sent a message in the first place. 

i know she has given up on me, like everybody does......but mums shouldnt do that. she use to always be there for me  (most of the time) but now she isnt. 

i feel so lost and it bring up emotions from back when i was in hospital. i hate it. 

i dont even know what to say to her. 

all iv done over the month , is push her deep into my head where i cant find it but now its back. 

and i dont know what to do

[BambiFawn]

Hey dear @Bubbles3, 

Yes, I completely understand, maybe try to gently tell your mother that you were upset that she never visited or called you in hospital. 

I was too passive the Lifeline Counsellor said to me regarding my mother and they told me to be more assertive with my mother. Often I said nothing back and then it fermented inside.  Yes it's best to be assertive as repressing things never helps.  Maybe write your mother a nice letter expressing things gently in words if you fear a confrontation with her sweetie @Bubbles3.

We all love you here. 

Your dear friend, 

BambiFawn

[Bubbles3]

thanks @BambiFawn
i dont i have the courage to even write a letter. the only i can do at the moment is leave it. i dont know what else to do. i just dont have the energy for the drama

[BambiFawn]

Yes dear sweetie @Bubbles3, maybe your hubby or someone could gently have a word with your mother.

Although, sometimes it's best to let sleeping dogs lie, or let sleeping tigers lie. That is to say, ''to.avoid interfering in a situation that is currently causing no problems but may well do so as a result of such interference''. Yes maybe it's best to not pull/ tweak the tail of the sleeping tiger, metaphorically speaking.

Your dear friend BambiFawn xx

[Former-Member]

Hi @Bubbles3 

Just a thought - do you think your husband can have a chat to your mother. You said you wouldn't be able to or write her a letter, so could he talk to her?

Also another thought is to get hubby to maybe give her some "fact sheets" info you MI so she can become a little but more educated on what you are going through.

Just some suggestions hun 

[Bubbles3]

I cant do this anymore. Kids just got home. Its to much already.

[Former-Member]

@Bubbles3can you go outside with Gizmo and have some time with him. Are you home with the kids by yourself? maybe put a movie on for them to watch so you can have a little break.

[Bubbles3]

I am outside and the kids want to play outside @Former-Member. I feel so agitated, shaky. Hubby not home till later. I just want to hide

[Former-Member]

@Bubbles3there are other times in the afternoon that you have felt not so good, what has helped in the past?