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[Former-Member]

Mending at 2am. Good on you @Appleblossom 😊

I mopped at 11pm last night. 😃

Yes. I agree. I don’t think I’ll ever get too close to people in the real world. Not to talk about personal issues. 

Well I think my extra half med is working now. Because I’m having trouble thinking to type. Time to go. 

I wanted to ask about your neck?

My neck/back gets very painful if I don’t to a little yoga Pilates stretches. 

Night. ❤️😴

[outlander]

Good night @Former-Member sleep well 

[Former-Member]

Morning 👋💜

Just dropping off coffee. ☕️

Hoping your day turns out ok with daughter etc....... 

@Former-Member

Hi to anyone else around. 👋 ☕️☕️ 💜

Heading off in the shower now. Need some heat on my neck and back. Good place to do a few stretches to ease pain. 

Catch you later. 😘

[Former-Member]

Good morning @Former-Member@outlander@Appleblossom

I must of emotionally wore myself out last night, had a big sleep in. Although I feel fine I am a bit upset with myself as I have thrown out my body clock again just when it was coming good. But having a few upsets will do it. My daughter isn't back home yet. It was nice how she sent me the loving message, but I now realise she can't move with us. Not sure how that will all work out and will be hanging over my head for some time as we have a deadline looming. Tense times.

I can understand totally @Former-Member your weariness of getting close to people in your personal life after having your trust betrayed and being so badly hurt. I am the same really - I do have friends and enjoy their company when I see them but few I let in. I think you could still have enjoyable social gatherings with good natured others that you would enjoy - that would be fun and connecting with others is uplifting. We don't have to be alone. But trusting someone allowing them closer takes time and nurturing.......That's a different ball game.

Your always welcome here to talk about anything you feel comfortable with 😊

Thats the beauty of this forum - we can connect and support each other in times of struggles anonymously- makes reaching out much easier for me. I have found this helps - as last night did and I very grateful. I will be there for all you as well.

That ironically is not always welcomed in the real world - where I work voluntarily in the it's hugely appreciated, but friends I have known are too proud to take help. I don't understand the latter - as for those offering feel pushed away. And the relationship crumbles. It's no ones fault really as all have own ways - but closeness grows between each other when one is there for the other in their darkness moment. Just being there and not saying much is enough. That's where trust is nurtured in my experience. And it is so rare. So many a battle I have had to fight alone, it get tiring. I care for my friends but would like to make new ones when I move.

Hope the shower eased your neck and back pain @Former-Member. I may go and do some sewing. Hope you are enjoying your Sunday @Appleblossom@outlander Talk again soon ❤️

[Appleblossom]

Glad you are rested. @Former-Member 

@Former-Member I have often mopped late at night for one reason or another ... lol ... 

My back and neck have been issues since late 20s.  For about 15 years doing the basic rehab swimming, yoga tai chi was the most I could do.  Gradually all those things helped.  In the last few years I have been able to lots of musical things as well and that has lifted my mood and quality of life.  I have a lot of chronic head and neck and back pain from a few reasons.  I think the recent business with my son has knocked me a lot.  Deeply at the core of my being, where I have been able to draw my strength from.  So I have done less exercises, note the respiratory function is reduced from meds and just barely keeping on at basics.

Isn't it Monday? @Former-Member I thought I missed a shift again.  I must not be doing so well really.  Just picked up son and he wanted me to do a big shopping on his new rules, but I am not sure I can go there. Its just eat what is in the house. Stop controlling me. I am running out of steam.

[Former-Member]

I do know that feeling @Appleblossom - my daughter is vegetarian/vegan and wanted me to do the same a few times and go shopping for her. I found it stressful and expensive (she does not pay for any of it, would not of been so bad if she contributed). I did compromise a few times in respect of her needs - but yes, please "don't control us". The latter makes me want to run and hide. 

The stress of it all does effect health - I found that, it also interfered with my sleep pattern severely. But am feeling determined to live my life - it really is our time to live now. It's hard. Time for some self nurture for both of us. I resonate with how you are feeling. xxxx 

[Appleblossom]

At the moment I am going through my sewing basket. Yay!

Yes. I was obedient to my daughter's vegetarian requirements for 5 years. It did not help give her any respect for me.  I will just buy the green leafy part of the keto diet.

The concept that I was worth obeying never even occurred to me. I was happy with any basic co-operation.  I have been caught between a generation that demanded absolute obedience, but little intelligence or guidance and .. a high need generation.  

I still respect my son's efforts.  

Listening to Don Cupitt's Sea of Faith docos.  

I think mh professionals need to address the permeability of family boundaries.  Many things that enter a family do not originate in it.

[Former-Member]

Thanks for your messages @-Enigma @Appleblossom

I’m feeling really overwhelmed and stressed to be able to reply properly. Day started with an argument, followed by having to sort other stressful stuff. Haven’t been home long. Just wanted to acknowledge your msgs. 

Probably will be back later. 

Unwinding with a cuppa. ☕️

💜💜💜💜💜💜

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member

Didn’t tag properly 🌷

[Former-Member]

Hi @Former-Member - sorry to read you started the day on a bad footing - arguements are awful, always leaves me feeling overwhelmed and sometimes hurt - hope you are okay. Glad to read you are unwinding with a cup of tea. Looking forward to chatting later.

I looked up the series "Sea of .Faith" @Appleblossom - I found it on YouTube. I noted Descartes, Pascal and Galileo- sounds really interesting. I will watch myself on the big screen through YouTube tonight if hubby's got nothing planned to watch. 

Family boundaries are a must when a member/s suffer MI. Otherwise in my experience it just doesn't work and all have a right to some peace and respect. My daughter had improved that way but has taken a bit of a dip. She is still with the boyfriend - she only comes home for food at the moment, seems he won't feed her (not surprised). She will have to work something more permanent out soon as we can't go through this merri-go-round anymore.

Just enjoyed a delicious dinner - I made tuna Biryani tonight and am about to enjoy a desert of apricot pie and icecream - will pop on later

How is my dear @outlander today - hope the pain in your hand has eased some x❤️