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13 Jun 2018 07:43 PM - edited 13 Jun 2018 07:46 PM
13 Jun 2018 07:43 PM - edited 13 Jun 2018 07:46 PM
Dear @Former-Member
Oh no .... what an awful thing to happen. I am so sorry!
I got an email notification, but your post has since disappeared. So I'm trying to recall all that you said.
From what I do remember, its little wonder you are currently deeply worried and feeling distraught.
I am unable to offer advice about where you can go for assistance. Perhaps a legal aid representative, although she may already have one?
I really feel for you and your husband, as this is such a difficult thing to deal with. So much concern for your daughter. AlI I can offer is my understanding, my love and a fervent desire for the best possible outcome.
Much love and concern for you.
Sherry 💔
13 Jun 2018 08:56 PM
13 Jun 2018 08:56 PM
Thank you @Former-Member. Thank you for being there as a voice of comfort and love at this horrendous time as I go through another bout of hell. Something I will never forget. You and @Appleblossom@outlander@Former-Member were the for me - that's the signs of real friends. They don't run when the going gets tough. I will never forget it - you will forever be in my heart. I have given everything - my heart and soul to all I meet and I have loved with all my heart. And now this. Perhaps this world isn't for me...
I am the lowest I have been for awhile. I may not be on here much now...... Please Dont forget me entirely my friends - I know I will never forget you @outlander@Appleblossom@Former-Memberxxx❤️💜❤️💜
13 Jun 2018 09:00 PM - edited 14 Jun 2018 01:01 PM
13 Jun 2018 09:00 PM - edited 14 Jun 2018 01:01 PM
@Former-Memberi am worried about you. Will you be safe?
This world is for you and you do matter. Please remember that even though you wouldn't feel it. Dont stop reaching out here ok.
❤
13 Jun 2018 09:13 PM
13 Jun 2018 09:13 PM
Hi @Former-Member,
I am concerned about you and going to send an email to check in with you. You have had an unbelievably terrible day and I'm sorry you're really struggling right now.
Take care,
Tortoiseshell
13 Jun 2018 09:14 PM
13 Jun 2018 09:14 PM
@Former-Member
I know you are now going to be very preoccupied with far more vital matters than the forums. But I think now is a time you actually need the support from your friends here more than ever.
I feel it would be a mistake to cut yourself off. For that reason I hope you will try to make a point of checking in here at least every day or two.
Actually, I'm really concerned for you. Do you consider yourself to be safe right now? If the answer is either no, or unsure, please dont hesitate to call a helpline. @Former-Member
I hope to hear from you regularly, if for no other reason than to reassure myself that you're okay.
Yes I do care for you. You are one of the people here who I feel I have gotten to know quite well. You have always been a tremendous support to me, and I really appreciate you.
This world needs people like you. You're what makes the world a better place. Never forget that.
Sherry 💕
13 Jun 2018 09:16 PM
13 Jun 2018 09:16 PM
13 Jun 2018 09:55 PM
13 Jun 2018 09:55 PM
@Former-Member 💜💖💜💖
I don’t know what has happened, but please know that I care very much.
Sending you love and hugs.
🌷🌸🌺🌷🌸🌺🌷🌸🌺🌷🌸🌺
14 Jun 2018 08:47 AM
14 Jun 2018 08:47 AM
Good morning @Former-Member (with a quick wave to @Former-Member @outlander @Appleblossom and others)
Enigma, I just wanted to quickly let you know that you are on my mind and in my heart today. No need to respond, unless you want to, or need to talk.
Sherry
14 Jun 2018 01:05 PM
14 Jun 2018 01:05 PM
@Former-Member I am so sorry there has been an escalation.
Do what you have to do. If you have to take time away, know there are friends here if you want and need to connect.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
When our burden is heavy and still we are tested again and again.
You dont need reminding
Your own path
14 Jun 2018 01:10 PM - edited 14 Jun 2018 01:19 PM
14 Jun 2018 01:10 PM - edited 14 Jun 2018 01:19 PM
@Former-Member@outlander@Former-Member@Appleblossom
Your post means more to me than words can say. I am having a really rough time - I suppose I should have seen something coming given the partner was abusive, but not quite the way it happened. She has retaliated against him - he knew she would crack and is bringing her down on purpose. Not just to destroy her, but us also. One hour after it happened he has been ringing her and the police saying he still wants a relationship with her. Does not sound like someone worried for their safety to me.
If we did not speak to the senior constable and explain, she would be sitting in a cell right now. They care nought about her mental health status. I am trying to see what legal assistance I can get there but the police were very good to us - they are just clueless in mental health and mental abuse areas. They just see it as black and white. But they could of been harder on her. I appreciated what they did for us.
They categorised the case as domestic violence, making her out to be the offender a d they know his record for domestic violence abuses; - if not so serious it would be laughable. She was provoked, but she still did the wrong thing retaliating, and has to learn to walk away - she needs anger management and to not put herself in situations of abuse. If not she will end up in jail for certain.
The concern is she feels justified that she did nothing wrong. When the dust settles I will tell her exactly what she did wrong on her part that could of ruined her life - a lot of women are in jail from retaliating to domestic violence. She has to learn to control herself and walk away or phone the police. She does have a home to come to!!!! She shattered me. She was not raised this way.
This daughter of mine has caused us so much distress and grief. I love her but I just can't do it anymore. I just can't win a trick.
So far she wants nothing to do with the creep but if I see any sign that she goes back to him I will ask her to leave. It will end our relationship but she would then be doing the wrong thing and leave me no choice. She will be on her own then. And we know what the ending will be.....I don't want that phone call.
This has shattered me no end. It has shattered my husband who is till angry and not himself. I am dealing with this alone - so I am so grateful for all of you here. I see this forum as somewhere to do this where I can't anywhere else.
My daughter asked me why I was crying last night (the mind boggles I know). I said what happened that day is effecting both myself and her father very badly. She replied "how do you think I feel", I stated "this is effecting us equally as much both mentally and physically and this is why "it has to stop". @Former-Member - I took your advice and told her what this is doing to us briefly.
The only glimmer of hope I can hold onto now is that she will not be stupid enough to go back to him or she will ruin her life. At the moment I can't see a future for me - I am losing everything; I can only see a faint glimmer......
She is going to work today, she has a good male friend who is driving her to work whilst her car is being repaired.
I feel like i Ike I have been hit by a truck - I feel so low. I have done my absolute best. I am doing that now - I am house cleaning even though my legs turn to jelly and I have to sit down (symptom of shock). Just not sure how many more blows I can take.
Sherry your quote was beautiful - you are always in my mind too and this has been giving me strength. Words can't describe my aprreciation of you and @outlander@Appleblossom@Former-Member
What I am enduring now is a real tragedy- and it's hitting me from all angles and I believe you all will understand that tsaumani of grief, distress and pain. It's moment to moment for me now....I can't take another blow. Sending all my love to you all ❤️💜❤️💜🌹
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