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23-05-2022 06:40 PM
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Re: Trauma and loneliness
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24-05-2022 08:07 AM
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Re: Trauma and loneliness
@creative_writer wrote:
I feel like culture often tells you to keep yourself so busy to avoid your emotions, that only increases stress and the burn out feeling.
You are so wise, @creative_writer .
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24-05-2022 08:09 AM
24-05-2022 08:09 AM
Re: Trauma and loneliness
@Appleblossom wrote:If we dont face our demons we tend to keep repeating behaviours and relationship patterns without reflecting.
This is so true, @Appleblossom . I'm a big believer in self-reflection.
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25-05-2022 07:42 PM - edited 25-05-2022 07:51 PM
25-05-2022 07:42 PM - edited 25-05-2022 07:51 PM
Re: Trauma and loneliness
@NatureLoverself-reflection is so important. I have a tendency to push myself to my limits, like lately I’ve felt the need to push myself to exercise despite feeling unwell physically, I even had a migraine aura the other day but continued to exercise, I think it was the sense of control, trying to minimise disruption in exercise routine, it sounds a bit obsessive, but sometimes I can be very rigid and set in my ways. I don’t want to lose my fitness, it takes a lot of hard work. Same thing with healthy eating, processed food triggers so much anxiety, they say you don’t need to eat clean 100% of the time, brain won’t listen. I also have been spending too much time on the internet, particularly after I submitted my last assignment to avoid the pain and loneliness. Apologies for the rambling.
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26-05-2022 08:56 AM
26-05-2022 08:56 AM
Re: Trauma and loneliness
@creative_writer wrote:I also have been spending too much time on the internet, particularly after I submitted my last assignment to avoid the pain and loneliness.
I also use distraction, @creative_writer ...distraction is good, but I can relate to spending too much time on the internet. I always feel much better when I stop looking at my phone and start meditating (not a structured meditation, just thinking through things and engaging with my feelings). You have reminded me that I haven't been doing much meditating lately - so thanks!
Pushing yourself to your limits - what does that satisfy in you? It must serve a need in you...I'd be interested to hear.
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26-05-2022 11:11 AM - edited 26-05-2022 11:12 AM
26-05-2022 11:11 AM - edited 26-05-2022 11:12 AM
Re: Trauma and loneliness
@NatureLoveryes, sometimes we do need to sit down mediate or deeply think about things. I probably should do that more often. Being away from electronics, and doing a lot of reflection in nature can be good for the soul. Honestly, I’ve crashed now and am stuck in bed, I mean what did I expect? My body is probably just very tired, really bad migraine, but I also seem to be very congested. I think I try to get a sense of control through exercise and diet, chronic pain and mental health can make your life feel out of control.
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28-05-2022 07:47 AM
28-05-2022 07:47 AM
Re: Trauma and loneliness
@creative_writer Sorry to hear about your bad migraine and congestion... 😞
@creative_writer wrote:I think I try to get a sense of control through exercise and diet, chronic pain and mental health can make your life feel out of control.
Ah yes, I can relate to needing a sense of control. I have this very intensely, and it's trauma-related, for me. I'm very sorry about your chronic pain 😞
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28-05-2022 04:08 PM
28-05-2022 04:08 PM
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29-05-2022 08:19 AM - edited 29-05-2022 08:19 AM
29-05-2022 08:19 AM - edited 29-05-2022 08:19 AM
Re: Trauma and loneliness
@creative_writer wrote:
I have a fear of developing a dependency, and I’m afraid people will not understand, so why even bother?
@creative_writer I don't think people necessarily need to understand to be able to help...I know my psychologist doesn't have my 6 MIs, but I've got a lot of healing through therapy with her.
Is your fear of developing a dependency a fear of what happens if they leave?
And yes, trauma is tough...I feel for you.
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29-05-2022 09:44 AM
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Re: Trauma and loneliness
I think the fear of dependency may be related to fear of vulnerability. Like I don’t want to be too vulnerable, needy, and I certainly don’t want to burden people.
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