when is it time for hospital

[CheerBear]

You've got lots of people here watching out for you @outlander 😊 I'm lingering too. I have something to share with you on your SA thread later when i can get a photo. Hope you're ok x

[outlander]

thanks CB its in the above post if you cna shed some light

oh thanks about the SA thread- i didnt know you followed that thread

@CheerBear

[Former-Member]

I'm not the best for advice in these situations @outlander, I lack any and all in social graces and tact.
But if it was me, I would just tell her i was going to do it and walk away before she had a chance to protest. Not even engage her with discussion about it. Tell her I've made my decision and that's final. Be strong and unbending.
She will only try and talk you out of it and make you feel bad. Don't give her that opportunity.
Not easy I know.

[outlander]

its so hard @Former-Member i know exaclty how shes going to react and i cant take anymore arguments or tension in the house. this i wont be able to put off for too much longer as my friend will need to know and if im not doing it then she will need to find someone else.

the only other thing holding me back is the fact she has a dog. he doesnt bite and ive met him quite a few times but he sleeps on the bed

[Ant7]

@outlander it seems like this would be a very positive thing for you right now. I do understand that you have some anxiety about telling your mother and that will be playing havoc with your decision. Maybe you can feel her out like mum you know ------ is going away and she wants some one to look after her place. Maybe start like that

[Former-Member]

Oh Claire, it would be wonderful if you could 'get away' for a couple of weeks, especially before your 'home duties' with your Sisters while your Mum goes on holiday!

All I can think of is, face your fears - at least you have a realistic idea of how things will go. Maybe keep it in your mind that your not asking permission, your just doing the decent thing of informing your Mother what your doing, knowing that you'll be back in time to look after your Sisters.

Remember to breathe

I think you should do it!

Niqua

@outlander

[Former-Member]

Tricky one @outlander, because you have made a commitment to your mother ,and I don't know if it's worth the trouble.Bad timing, otherwise it would've been great for you.But only you know what you can do.

[Former-Member]

I really don't know,easy to say but it's your reality girl,your decision.🐴

[Former-Member]

I guess that's why I'd take the hard line response on your mum. You know she's going to react. Don't let her. Just walk away. Don't even let her begin her theatrics.
I guess I give you this advice as I have a similar mum to yours. Not as bad, but similar features. This is how my brothers cope with her. I personally lie to her for the most part and we get along. But neither situation is ideal.
But the dog thing is another matter entirely. I don't know about that one. Only you know how you respond and react to this dog and if you will be feeling safe for 2 weeks with it.

[outlander]

I want to go. I dont think the dog would be too bad. Hes really old and just lays around the house.
The other problem im freaking out about is that i would also have to tell my mother that her and her bf would have to go to the original plan of when ahes as work hea not and vise versa. Ill only be avaliable between the hours of 11 and 4 so theres a week tbey would still be at school and then a fe days of school holidays.
Im waiting to confirm dates but i would be back from friends house place who lives locally mind you on the 22nd and they leave the 23rd
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