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27-01-2022 09:23 AM
27-01-2022 09:23 AM
Self-talk reminders
I want to start this new thread as a way of reminding ourselves in writing, that we can keep living despite the odds we have against us. Let's keep this discussion going for as long as we can!
Ok, I'll start the ball rolling!
I know I have lifelong psychiatric problems and a permanent disability to boot. But I'm 36 now and am still here! I'm still surviving with some other health issues which are currently under control. And today is going well so far.
My brain and body are still trying to cope with past problems that aren't happening today. I keep reliving new situations that have recently occured, when they aren't happening in this moment, today. But I'm still here, and I'm writing now while I relax. This is a major improvement for me as a few weeks ago I couldn't even think straight let alone function properly. And my appetite is back. And I'm less pesimistic. Not perfectly optimistic, but less pesimistic. I suppose this means I can improve on pessimism as well? Even if I can't be sure, I have to improve somehow eventually!
I make society my issue when it's really not my problem at all. My actual problem is not standing up for myself when I'm mistreated. It's no good getting medical support and then not sticking up for myself. Medical help and therapy is great, but I keep letting people mistreat me and I have to stop doing it because every time I let people get away with hurting or abusing me, they take power away from me and they win. It's time to stop letting my power be taken by people who don't deserve my time of day, and giving my power to people who want to help and support me. I sent that email yesterday. This was a good call. No more stress now!!! I update support workers before problems get worse for me. All good now!!!
I still need medical support for my psychiatric and physical symptoms so my brain and body stays healthy and well, but at least I'm functioning today and I can finally cut my unwanted past out. I can say no to what I don't want in my life. I can block/cut out negative people who are toxic for me, and support people who want help and support. I know there's some negativity around helping others, but if people are looking for help, they won't be toxic with me. Let's please keep the good times coming! I need my health to keep improving every day. I need to keep trusting my doctors and I still need to look for a psychologist who will work for me.
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27-01-2022 12:29 PM
27-01-2022 12:29 PM
Re: Self-talk reminders
There seems to be heaps of positivity in your post @Codex1
I am also currently on a journey of standing up for myself more. Using my voice. Not settling for bad treatment due to a sense of not knoing any better, and not believing I was worthy of more. A long time ago I came across a concept ... called .... Carefrontation .... instead of confrontation .... I do try.
cheers
Apple
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27-01-2022 03:22 PM
27-01-2022 03:22 PM
Re: Self-talk reminders
Hey @Codex1 ,
So great to read your post. I'm glad there's a shift in things - for the better.
I hope to hear more of your progress.
I appreciate you sharing this with the community, because I can see you have thought very deeply about your recovery.
Good on you!
tyme
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27-01-2022 04:59 PM
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27-01-2022 05:06 PM
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Re: Self-talk reminders
It's good my appetite is back. Now I just have to avoid stressing too much. Now I have to keep any power I've got and not let it go to people who I don't trust. At least I know what I want in my life. Hopefully I stay with Mable now, I should never have left them. Anyway, I'm getting good support workers who know how to treat people with respect. I also like how I didn't get super stressed out today. Good news!!! A slight headache instead of feeling very terrible. And I'm not bedbound because of intense fatigue, or feeling super crook, any more, besides the stupid hayfever allergies which comes and goes. Life is running fairly smoothly. For now. I want it to stay that way for a long time, not just a few months.
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28-01-2022 03:33 AM
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