Life can be a Pain

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member

You are right - having everything happening at once is like waiting out a storm and all we can do is to pray - I do - and this morning I was wondering what to pray for and yes - it takes courage to sit in the rain and wait it out

But that's what I do - I have done this all my life - it gets easier to wait out the storms because they do pass and what can I do about any of them but deal with them one at a time and I can't change other people's minds - only my own 

But yeah - it feels bleak this morning - I feel really tired today and that's okay - I have to go through my files and find my last pension statement and feel as if asking for a subsidy for this Aged Care Package is a total waste of time. I mean - the system is set up against us and it's sometimes easier to go along with it and I like to pick my battles and the cat feels like the most important one right now

And I understand your sciatica - that is serious pain - and I have back pain today - whatever it is I don't really feel up to much today and so with your pain - which is going on long enough to be called chronic - not easy at all

So I feel really flat and I can accept that and tomorrow is a different day and like everyone else I don't feel happy with uncertainty - but yeah - right now I am living with it and I okay with not being happy - 

All the best with that back and leg pain Lapses - I understand

Dec

[outlander]

@Owlunareven laying down little owls are cute see  

[Owlunar]

Hi @utopia

It is really hard to cope with ordinary things when one part of our body is out of commission - and having your arm bandaged straight like that - it will not be easy - I can understand

If we have our elbow bent then there is a lot we can do - after all - about the only thing we can do effectively with our arms straight is close-order drill as when we are in the services - and really - what else do we learn doing that? Well - we learn to take orders - I enjoyed doing drill when I was in the reserve - but what else is that good for?

I am glad the depression has faded and hopefully your energy will increase and the wound on your arm will heal up quickly - I guess it's one of those things we can only wait out

How did I learn to cope with various disabilities? Time and necessity I guess - I have lived alone since all of this happened and I have also had bilateral shoulder tendons torn and they never really heal - but living alone does mean we are pushed onto our own resources and I have to think that this is better than having people doing stuff for us all the time - and oddly - other people can do our domestic tasks but no one can really help with eating and personal care when parts of us are out of commission

When I have been in the acute stages of something I have had extra help with the shower etc but I am never comfortable with those things - I think like everyone else I would rather do things for myself and waiting out not having the freedom of doing anything and everything when I choose to is not easy

But flossing my teeth - alas - no one can do that for me - years can pass and we learn to manage one way or another I guess because the alternatives are less pleasant

But yes - I can hear you - it is very frustrating and I think we can only do our best and yes - eating food one handed with your left hand has to be pretty tough - I guess you already know to use a spoon

How are you managing for food - are you getting ready made meals or something like that - cooking must be impossible - even undoing packages or cans - whatever

I can imagine - and I wish you the best - and hope you can gather your strength. Having those stitches fail was not at all good - really bad luck

I hope things improve fast

Dec

[Owlunar]

Hi @outlander

I really like that little owl lying back there and being cared for - I am taking all the care available and waiting until tomorrow when all the world comes back and I can deal with some of the things on my list

Companion Cat is the most important - I woke up late and I decided to stay in bed and read for a while and the cat thought this was the best idea ever but we were disturbed by the people next door being noisy - and I got up and had breakfast and I have a movie on and really find it a helpful thing to write here

Whatever happens happens - and we have a few choices - one being of course that we can allow ourselves to go with the flow until it's time to learn something or do something or seek something - whatever is appropriate

Time itself is a great teacher

I read that pain is one of your triggers - alas - I believe it is for everyone and not at all pleasant but necessary as it tells us something is wrong. Still we don't have to like it

Having an infection in your kidney and your chest at the same time has to be really wearing but not at all surprising - it the answer about how long you could continue the way you were going - anxiety and stress lead to exhaustion and your body is screaming at you for rest

And now you are having it - as indeed I am today - just letting time past and wondering what to eat for lunch with I don't have to worry about much because I only had breakfast a short time ago

Take it easy Outlander and let it be as hard as I know it has to be - I am doing the same - and it's okay

All the best

Dec

My writing is not really up to scratch today and that's okay too

[outlander]

Thats ok @Owlunar you rest 💜
Just be that littl owl and rest.

Yes i think your right. My body is telling me something. Its probably screaming 'TAKE A HINT WOMAN! lol

Hugs @Owlunar i hope both you and cat can rest and maybe do something nice thats quiet or easy going 💜

[utopia]

Thank you @Owlunar for understanding. I know in the grand scheme of things, it's not a big issue. But it is frustrating how much I can't do and how everything else needs to be modified.
At the moment I'm using ready made meals. So much easier.
I guess today it's getting a little easier. No pain today which helps.
I feel silly as your pain and situation is worse than mine - but I feel how I feel.
I hope you have a nice day today..Into the 30's here today in country Victoria and will be all week

[utopia]

And thank you @Owlunar. I don't feel so alone, with you responding to my post. ♥♥♥

[Former-Member]

Sometimes it helps to laugh 🙂

[Former-Member]

Sometimes I don't know what yo say @Utopia, @outlander... there's no malice. I care but have trouble keeping up & remembering histories and tjus risk putting my foot in it... Jut too hard most the time. But doing what I can 💐

[outlander]

that is perfectly fine @Former-Member 🙂  we do what we can where we can