My daughter wants no contact with me

[NatalieS]

@BambiFawn

Not sure what type of fox he is but I just love his big ears!  He looks so vulnerable...besides, my little piggie avatar is being used by someone else, so just like two people at a party who are wearing the same outfit , I decided to go home and change....who knows, I might find another avatar. 

Take care now. 

[BambiFawn]

I love foxes dear @NatalieS. He looks so cute and sweet. I usually have adopted the Disney theme in my avatars. 

Take good care sweet @NatalieS.

[Former-Member]

Hi @BambiFawn

You did the right thing with your daughter regarding the drug situation. You did what was best for her. I went through exactly the same with my daughter a year ago. She is also 21. She was angry at first too - now since she has moved out on her own we are closer than ever and she no longer has bad habits. 

Drugs are a big problem among the youth today. Since she was born I never drank or smoked because when I was very young (long before I had my daughter) I was an alcoholic - so I never had it in the house to tempt me whilst she was growing up. She was my world and I doted on her, in a way to try and protect her from the neglect of my own childhood. So I spoilt my daughter - a mistake on my part which I have now rectified.

Young adolescents are now more influenced by their peers and music bands and look at them as either role models or wanting to fit in more, than they are by their own parents - drug abuse etc is not necessarily the fault of a parent/s at all, its all around young people now and the pressure and temptation on them to try it is fierce. Authorities have gone soft on weed, the gateway drug which usually leads to stronger ones once they become immune. Cannabis did trigger bi-polar in my daughter. Drugs like ice can be addictive after only trying them once. 

Its a good sign that she wants to keep contact with you on Facebook. And now she is having her own baby the relationship between you both may improve. There is nothing we can do but let them know we are there for them and love them. Wishing you both all the best x

[BambiFawn]

Hey lovely @Former-Member, you are a wonderful mother. I'm so happy you and your daughter are close.  And you did well to not drink whilst raising your daughter.  I really admire you. Your daughter will know how much she is loved by you. 

I believe my daughter loves me but my mother was a bad, unhealthy influence.  Also, there was not much contact for us, so it was hard for me and hubby to see my daughter.  Sometimes I only saw my daughter for 2 hours every 2-3 mths.  So my mother was her mainstay and inculcated in her, her values. 

But I am over the moon, that we are communicating again, just before she has her baby girl. I know I'm a good mother.  My friend Amber wrote a reference to the Department and stated that I was a good mother, tho ill. I'm always telling my daughter I love her dearly and think the world of her. 

Just watching a documentary on Princess Diana.  She really was a good mother and the Queen of hearts.  

Take good care dear lovely @Former-Member.  Thanks for caring enough to reply. It has cheered me up immensely.

[BambiFawn]

Hey @Former-Member, your Avatar looks so spiritual.  The light is heavenly. Brilliant.