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‎03-09-2020 10:22 AM
‎03-09-2020 10:22 AM
My favourite place sitting thinking about life bad things happen what do I do??
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‎03-09-2020 05:24 PM - edited ‎03-09-2020 05:25 PM
Dear @BlueBay . I'm really sorry I have not been around much the past couple of weeks, to help try to support you. I have been following along however, during my absence. Really proud of you for getting through your hospital stay. I'm disappointed that you feel it may have been more harmful to you than otherwise however. I guess its hard to guage really. Back at work too I see ... well done BlueBay! It gives you a purpose and an opportunity to escape the house for a time, so its definitely a good thing. I recall you speaking about moving to a different role, as a checkout operator I think. Is there anything happening there yet?
Your photo from this morning is lovely. Notifications are really 'up the creek' over the past 2 weeks, and I never got any notification for this post, hence my lack of response. The only reason I saw it was because I went looking for your thread and just saw the post now.
You pose the question: My favourite place sitting thinking about life bad things happen what do I do??
Firstly it does indeed look like a beautiful place to sit and think ... looking out to sea from a lovely sandy white beach.
As for bad things which happen in life ... yes that is unfortunately very true. Lots of bad things happen in life, many of which have a lifelong impact on us. And thats certainly the case for you @BlueBay and for many others here on the forum. What do you do? Keep fighting BlueBay ... because thats the right thing to do. Right for you, right for your loving family, right for your very dear little granddaughter, right for Jersey and right for your friends both here and offline. We all deserve happiness and peace in our lives @BlueBay ... but some of us have to fight very hard every day to find that. But it is achievable. And sometimes all it needs is a day/hour/minute of happiness to make our daily battle worthwhile.
I'm sorry you are struggling and I'm sorry you are still searching for answers. Its possible some of us will never find answers to our biggest questions, but that doesnt mean we cannot still find happiness. Hang in there BlueBay ... you are a pretty amazing person ... and I should remind you of that more often than I do. Sending love and a big hug your way beautiful BlueBay. And while I'm here ... thank you so very much for your support of me lately too. 🌺
Waves to @Shaz51 @Maggie @MDT @Owlunar 🌞
Emelia 🌸
‎04-09-2020 03:27 PM
‎04-09-2020 03:27 PM
Hi @BlueBay
I haven't been in the forum much but I have been thinking about the trouble you have making decisions
I had to make a tough decision when I came home from my week in hospital in July - I knew I wasn't well emough and one of the nurses offered me a day or two more but I knew this wasn't good either - I cried - feeling really terrible and the social worker came to see me and thought going home would be better but it was up to me - so I got dressed and left asap
And I did feel ill at home - the medication I was taking was making me feel spaced out and I stopped that after talking to my specialist in a Telehealth call - and I was right to come home - so in spite of feeling really off-colour I was able to get better - but it was hard to come home too
I think the main reason was the hospital didn't have full cream milk at all - it's strange how a small thing can help make up our mind sometimes -
Still - for you and decisions - once you have made a decision and acted on it then - that's that - whatever the outcome mostly that's done and wondering if it was right or not must be what's called over-thinking and that's not good. If you need to go to hospital for a rest then okay - well done - but you're not going to recover there - this is going to take time - and you already know that
And recovery is up to you in the long run - you say it's too hard to see a new psychologist but I know it's sometimes necessary - and I think for you - you feel you need to go on telling people about your abuse - and I seem to remember that the psychologist you are talking about now is the one who did exposure therapy and that was not at all good for you.
Personally I think you are at a cross-roads right now - you had to leave your dietician and your psychologist because you weren't getting any better apparently - well to me it's obvious - you need to get better - and you want to get better - so the question is - how to get better
You are letting your past destroy you - it is taking every joy in your life away from you - and holding onto the past can do that - and I want better for you and really hope you can accept it happened and move on. Time you spend with your therapists needs to be time spent coping with the present because that is challenging enough at the best of times and harder right now
I feel I can't help you much either - except tell you the truth as I see it and that is not always easy - but I think you already know what I will right anyway. I could say it's sometimes hard to keep breathing anyway - add a mask all the time and - yes - it's harder
But I am still here reading what you write and I care a whole lot -
Dec
‎04-09-2020 03:38 PM
‎04-09-2020 03:38 PM
I’m not getting notifications either @BlueBay . But thinking of you, sending 💙💙💙
I love the beach.
‎08-09-2020 04:25 AM
‎08-09-2020 04:25 AM
Thinking of you @BlueBay . Hoping you are ok. Sending 💙💙💙💙
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Hey @MDT - Thanks for checking in, it's always great to see how much you folks look after each other. I believe she has taken some time away from forums, hopefully she'll be back before too long as I know how much everyone cares about her. If you have any concerns feel free to flick us an email
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