Life after hospital

[Koko]

It sounds like she's putting your mum in her place!!! That is putting in boundaries which is excellent. Is it worth discussing it with counsellor tomorrow? It may actually work in your favour if counsellor knows mum!? But it's entirely your choice. You have the power and how would you feel about talking to your mum about that phone call and how you felt? It might be good for your mum to know you are in control of your recovery. Sounds like mum might just be worried about you?

[Queenie]

Hopefully the psychologist is putting your Mum in her place and reiterating your rights (for sessions to be kept confidential). She might be a keeper @outlander

[utopia]

@outlander. I agree with @Koko. Your mums end of the conversation - is due to her being told that your session will be private. But definitely let this psycholigist know about your concern.
I've had many counselors. I've been lucky withmy last 3. The third one left the job. The ssecond one did her specific job of EMDR to treat my PTSD. The current one - even though paid by WorkCover has made it clear from the outset & has proved it since - that he works for me. He is my counselor. His job is looking after me.
You may find, that with the new psychologist seeing your mum (individually) will work in your favor - as she already knows how your mum thinks (rational or irrational). That's good.

[outlander]

@Phoenix_Rising
I really bloody hope she doesnt breach anything. This is my 6th and I cant take anymore!
I really hope it is the psych putting my mother in her place. Its already making me edgy and I dont know how this is ging to go tonight now because of all this. Great thank you so much mum- not

@Koko
this is my 6th one in 8 months already. I want to go back to my original psychologist but I know thats not possible so I have to suck it up and find another one. But I cant seem to find one.
Ill be definently talking to this new one about these concerns with my mother casue im not having her disclose nothing to her. The only person she can tlak to is my gp and psychiatrist. FULL STOP. And if she doesnt like it then im leaving. I cant keep switching psychs all the time to please everyone else.
If you want to know my history ill tag you into my other thread that has my story in it- but thats up to you its hidden atm and hasnt been active for abit but I dont mind talking about it on here, its in life form that scares the s**t outta me.
It doesnt matter to me if you havent worked in the field yet, you still have the same qualifications as most psychs, and its understandable for your reasons.
She knows my mother through her point of view. I ahvent been active in anything for a long while until all this blow up.

I really hope so @Queenie. I really do

@utopiaI really hope so. I can only hope so hey

mums bf- geezus hes annoying and I can already feel controlled. Everytime im alone with him he will constantly say is there anythign you want to tlak about- I dont feel confortable talking to either mum or her bf. I cant I really I dont know maybe its because of the past and their reactions. I dont know but I cant do it and the more I think about it the more nervous it makes me. And when I said I have the stupid counsllor tomorrow -he said well look at the positives they already know your story we have already told her- I wonder what sh*t they have said already. I would actually prefer to start fresh then its my story not their story but I guess ill have to wait and see tomorrow hey

[Koko]

@outlander You are strong and brave!

[outlander]

so the appointment went ok today. I really hope she can stick to what she says she will do.
She seems to have a good understanding of whats going on and she was gobsmacked how many therapists ive been to in only 8 months.

We discussed where id like to go from here and getting the details and everything as well. Though I didnt have to fully explain my home life she wanted my side of the story. So this session was pretty much the normal initial session which I dont mind. She explained how she works and ive made another session.

We both went through the boundaries that I want put in place and she said every one of those is reasonable. And if/when my mother asks about the sesssions to her she will be saying I think its best you ask outlander and then changing the subject. Unless I say to her but my mums stopping therapy now anyway she wrapping up next week for her last session.

Her 'homework' that shes givens me to do over two weeks is to make a lsit of all my triggers that ive identified so far and also list all of the coping strategies I have tried and how ive used them.

So not really that much done in the initial session but im hoping I can move forward now. She has said there will be times like when I disclose or give more information about certain events but shes not rushing into it. And its set at my pace.

@Koko@utopia@Queenie@Phoenix_Rising@Former-Member@Former-Member

[Phoenix_Rising]

That all sounds super positive @outlander.

[outlander]

thanks @Phoenix_Rising i hope we can keep moving forward now

[Queenie]

She definitely sounds like a keeper @outlander. Sounds really really positive, so pleased for you!

[outlander]

thank you @Queenie i really hope shes a keeper. we will see the next session my mother goes to. i know she will ask about my session and ill know whether the psych has said something cause my mother will come to me about it.