Life after hospital

[Queenie]

That psychologist should have referred you to someone else @outlander as she would have a conflict of interest in your case (seeing as she was your Mum's counsellor). A good psychologist for you would be one who refuses to speak to your family members without your permission. My psychiatrist and psychologist wouldn't ever speak to anyone without my permission and knowledge, as it is unethical.

[utopia]

@outlander. If she is a family counselor and that is her clear aim - to look after the whole family - then that's okay.
If however, she is going to be your psychologist - you need to make sure at your meeting tomorrow - that your conversations stay with you and her. That she sees you separately and doesn't disclose your mums comments to you or your comments to your mum.
Some psychologists can work separately with different members of the same family.

[outlander]

@Queenie@utopia

an appointment on wednesday that im suppose to be attending but im not sure if I want to do that or not. Im thinking about waiting till I get more steady on my feet first otherwise I might not have the most desired result.

My psychiatrist didnt speak to anyone uless she asked me first and asked If there was anythign in particular I didnt want said or do want said and her and my Gp both worked very closely together esp over the past few weeks. My psychiatrist actually came and visited me while I was in hospital.
And the last time I gave her permission- well both gp and psychiatrist- it turned really bad and I ended up in hospital!

Ill go tomorrow and see how it all goes but ill definently be making it clear I dont want what I say in the session to be meantioned to mum or her bf esp without my go head.

Im thinking that if I go in there tomorrow and discuss the reasos why I was in hospital and how I was feeling and get her opinion on it. Ill bet she says thats the best place for me- and then tell mum and her bf cause they still dont believe me. They may have changed their attitude about my responsibilities but it hasnt hanged their views on my MH state.

[Phoenix_Rising]

@outlander A psychologist cannot tell your mother or anyone else what you discuss in a session, without your consent. If your psychologist was to disclose to your mother anything you say, that would be a reportable ethical breach.

[Koko]

If she's a professional she should make her own assessment but you can also say you are concerned that your mum has seen her and has spoken to her. I would discuss that first to allay anxiety. I am a counsellor (not working) but I would ask you straight up how you feel about your mums involvement. I just found my 7th counsellor in 18 months and she seems really great. I told her I was at the end of my rope with having had so many not work out. I made a list of all the issues I had with counselling and talked about that first. I have moved 4 times so had to leave counsellors and the others it wasn't my doing....pregnancy, moving, one that really sucked anyway. That time is YOUR time. With what sounds a traumatic history, no one should EVER push you to say something you're not ready to. I'm sorry this is going on but how awesome are you to keep trying. Well done. I know it's tough!

[Koko]

I should say I've never worked as a counsellor. Just finished my qualification but won't work in the field until I'm totally ok!

[outlander]

OMG!!!
The counsellor im seeing tomorrow just called my mother and she went in the room with the phone but i can hear her saying things like 'im her mother i have a right to know'
And things like that!!
Wtf! Hows that fair!

[outlander]

I dont think i should stay with her @Phoenix_Rising @Koko @utopia @Former-Member @Former-Member

[Phoenix_Rising]

@outlander Well if your mum is saying things like that, it may be that the psychologist is making it clear to her that, as I just said, she cannot discuss anything you say, with your mother. That is a good thing.

[Koko]

It sounds like she's putting your mum in her place!!! That is putting in boundaries which is excellent. Is it worth discussing it with counsellor tomorrow??? It may actually work IN your favour if counsellor knows mum!?? But it's entirely your choice. You have the power AND how would you feel about talking to your mum about that phone call and how you felt? It might be good for your mum to know YOU are in control of YOUR recovery. Sounds like mum might just be worried about you?!?!?!?!