The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing

[Sans911]

One part of me wants to ring my mother & tell her to stop being so childish and stupid. That it's not worth ruining our relationship over. But if I did that on anger, it would all come out wrong, and it would only serve to force her away further. I'm really confused, as I never saw this coming. She'll respond to my comments on fb, and she'll interact with MY friends on fb(which really makes me angry). If I let this continue, it will deteriorate our relationship to a point of no return. I've tried so, so hard to build a relationship of trust, respect and even fun, but it's mostly been me that's done the hard work. Yes, it's always about her. Her needs, her feelings, what is best for her.

How is your Sunday going?

[Teej]

@Sans911 I think in my very awkward way 😳 I just tried to write that I really value having you around too. 💜🤗

Hi @Snowie. Sorry for being in my inner world. I’m listening to you too. It’s nice to see you pop back up.  💜🤗

[Zoe7]

Seedlings and seeds all planted @Sans911 - need to get one more seedling tomorrow - I somehow managed to get 2 of the same herb so must have picked up the wrong one - the Thyme and Marjoram were next to each other so picked up another Thyme instead if the Marjoram - oh well another trip to Bunnings 

I haven't been able to mow the lawn for a couple of weeks - it has been too wet and too cold to dry out enough to cut it. I also need to do a bit of weeding but that will also need to wait until there is some sun out and it is a little warmer - I can't be out in the cold for long - just the little bit of time I was outside yesterday gave me a chill and I really can't get sick again 

[Appleblossom]

@Sans911 Thinking of you lots.  The hurt and anger is hard to get over, but try thinking of some of the anger as YOUR energy and dont let your mum steal any more of it.  Move forward with YOUR energy.

My mother behaved like yours is on facebook, all through my life, but that was before social media.  I really understood her difficulties re the abandonment issues and did everything I could to heal her from her childhood issue in the war, and heal our relationship.  In the end she seemed to suck my life out of me for most of my adult life.

Some of that anger is simply LIFE ENERGY.  WHen it is in form of anger it can cripple us with guilt or indecision in how to act. 

Put your eggs in baskets that work for you.

[Snowie]

She sounds somewhat like my mother, always about her. Her needs more important than my own. I guess there is no great outcome in something like this and even being the "bigger person" can backfire. I am sorry you have to go through this and wish I had helpful words for you. 

My Sunday is slow. D had netball this morning, up the street after that and now home resting. Miserable outside so we are all staying inside this afternoon. Trying to do some washing and general cleaning up.

Hi @Teej, staying in your inner world in fine, but nice to see you on here too

[Zoe7]

@Sans911 @Teej @Snowie @Appleblossom Sorry to interrupt your conversation here - it is a very important sharing that you are all doing and great that you can all support each other 

[Teej]

I have a feeling @Zoe7 that it’s a very jumbled sharing but all good so any sharing is good. I think we are all pretty good at working through jumbled sharing 😆💜🤗. 

[Snowie]

Hi @Zoe7 @Appleblossom

How are you both going?

[Teej]

@Sans911 Can you dear man (DBT) your mum a letter or rehearse a dear man for the phone call. I’ve used it a few times with one of my sons. I can imagine how hard this situation is on you and how exhausting. 

[Zoe7]

From the time I began typing my reply to @Sans911 to when I actually posted @Teej there was  a lot more posted - whoops - I'm a bit slower than usual this afternoon