I'm in a nest

[Zoe7]

What kind of messages are they @CheerBear - text, facebook, messenger etc. - all of these have a blocking function where you can isolate the number so you don't receive any further messages - this way even if they continue to send them you will not know.

[CheerBear]

They're text messages @Zoe7. I don't have any social media anymore and haven't shared email with anyone. I can block incoming phone calls but not text messages (as far as I can tell). I'll have a bit more of a look in my phone settings though thanks Zoe. I might need to send a message asking that they stop texting me if it doesn't stop. I suck at this part of stuff, the whole putting myself first thing. It feels so bad. I have a feeling I'm in good company with this one here though 😉

[Former-Member]

@CheerBear I just looked on my iphone. I'm settings/messages there is a menu item that says blocked and you can add a number. I'm sure if you're on android you could too under settings. Google it if you can't find it. 

So sorry that you e been getting this sucky reminder. 😖

[Zoe7]

oh yes you are in good company @CheerBear - what kind of phone do you have - iphones I can't help with but androids I can 

A carefully worded reply may also be empowering for you in the long run @CheerBear - something to ponder at least - I can help you out with that one if you like - had a little practice there myself !!!!!!

[CheerBear]

Arrrrggh i should seriously know by now not to attempt to have any kind of sensible adult conversation here at LF are bananas o'clock. Thanks @Former-Member and @Zoe7 - be back when all is quieter in this house!

[Zoe7]

'at LF are bananas o'clock' - that did so make me laugh and that is not an easy job today @CheerBear 

Catch ya later neighbour 

[CheerBear]

After searching through my phone settings I found it thanks @Zoe7 and @Former-Member! I had to hunt around a bit but was missing a setting when I looked earlier.

@Zoe7 - I love the idea that it might be empowering to send a message. I started thinking about what to say and might just be really honest. Thank friend for keeping me up to date with everything and thinking of me, but explain that it is very hard to read as I miss it all too much and know I can never go back to it. Let friend know that LF and I are trying to start our new life now, which means leaving our old one behind for good, which hurts but is what has to happen. Wish friend well and say goodbye. Gulp. I can do that though. It surely has to feel better than being pulled back into old life when I don't expect it? Maybe next message I can send one back like that. Thanks for your perspective and help. I so appreciate it.

Cheers lovely people. Glad you got a smile too Zoe 🙂

[Phoenix_Rising]

@CheerBear, My feelings are super gigantically huge because @CherryBomb is leaving. Everything is giant and crazy in my brain and I feel super super super alone. Can I please sleep snuggled in your pocket tonight with squishy and Mr Seahorse? My whole inside hurts. Everybody goes away @CheerBear. My brain is super flooded. My brain is overflowing with a bazillion memories of a bazillion people going away. I feel utterly utterly utterly alone.

[CheerBear]

I was replying on your wave thread but will come here instead.

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so alone tonight @Phoenix_Rising.

I know our situations are different but I can very much get how incredibly painful it can be when friends aren't there anymore. I think you get that I can get this part of the muddle by now too. So not-friends works for me as well.

I'd love to have you in my pocket tonight, close but not too close to Squishy and Mr Seahorse.

[Phoenix_Rising]

Thank you for letting me snuggle @CheerBear. I know that you know the pain of loss. My brain feels like it has gone all puddled again after oh-so-slowly improving over the past week. Now I feel like I've fallen all the way down the mountain again. Everything hurts. I am so super glad that we are not friends. Night.