when is it time for hospital

[Sans911]

@outlander- can you just stop, get out for five minutes and do some grounding exercise? and at the end of the day, if this is too hard it might be too much for you sweetheart, don't go there.

[outlander]

i cant do it @Sans911

how i can not just say something

why do i have to have a panic attack everytime i even think about talkng to my mother

why is is so damn hard

breathing is probably a good idea..

[JoseJones]

Having a difficult conversation with someone can be terrifying, outlander!


Sending out good vibes from the Sane forum.

[outlander]

@JoseJones

im panicing

panic panic

panic

omg

i cant

[Sans911]

@outlander- hun, you know your mother stresses you out-big time. You don't yet have the strength to stand up and stand
standing up to her. That's ok for now. There will be a time when you are stronger and can deal with her. You are doing the best you can for now.

[Shaz51]

@outlander I think that you have some good advice here from everyone, sending you some big hugs my sister

[outlander]

i thought this would be a great opportunity and my friend needs to know. it was a really quick split decision and has to get things organised now otherwise i think maybe i couldve organised it.

i dont think i can talk to my mother. i have a panic attack every single time i even think about talking to her and it quickly spirals as i guess you guys have just seen.

but i dont want to dissapoint my friend either

stuck in a rock and a hard place and a place i want to be

im such a dissapointment

how can a mother distress their own child that much

how can i let it get to me that much

i really am a mistake

@Shaz51@Sans911@Ant7@Queenie@CheerBear@Former-Member@Former-Member

[outlander]

this is/was my chance to do something and i cant do it 😞

[Sans911]

@outlanderNO, NO, NO YOU ARE NOT A MISTAKE. You are on this Earth for a reason, and as shitty as life is right now, you will have a better life in time. I'm sorry you feel so bad, your mother has treated you horrendously. You have been neglected much of your short life already, treated not much more than a slave for your mother and bf benefits. I'm sorry, I just get so f£$^^%%king angry at how unfair things are for you. No one can tell you what is the right thing in this situation, but I guess at some point in your life you have to decide what your life is worth. That might mean an all out bust up with your mother, and perhaps you may need to distance yourself from her until you've both worked out what is the best way forward for your relationship.Unless you can make a decision today, and be mentally ok with the consequences, go ahead. But if you feel it may impact you negatively, you might have to back up. You know you will still be loved by everyone here on the forums, no matter what. I am more than sorry this is so difficult for you

[Former-Member]

@outlander
Is this possible/attainable for both you and your family?If yes speak to your mum.You should be able to have this discussion with fear of abuse etc. Is there another solution for your family?