Hi @Former-Member
Thanks goodness I have found this thread - I am glad you tagged me
This is a rotten time for you - I guess if it was just you and your Dad and the agreeable brothers it would be okay - just okay - but with the green-eyed monster of a sister - strange person - I have a feeling if the fairies swapped our sisters we might not notice - whew
I am sure they can't put your Dad into care if he doesn't want to go and you are prepared to care for him - what is wrong with your sister? No need to answer that - she wants the property - oh botheration with interferring siblings - you have been there doing the hard yards and respecting your mother's wishes and caring for your Dad - and all the chaos in the house - yes - I guess you only do what you can do - and leave a lot of stuff for later
Whoever has the say in what happens to your Dad will have to consider his wishes btw - I did look into financing Aged Care - that is My Aged Care - I have no idea how someone who is not computer literate can figure out that shambles - but I have been into the website and had a look around
But what's her hurry - doesn't she stop to think about how this will affect your Dad who has just lost his wife of however many years now? - a long time
One think I have thought of though - sure you will think of it yourself - when you get into your mother's room - and the time will come - you will need to take care regarding dust mites and other things like that - and maybe - it's up to you and depending on how long all of that stuff has been there - maybe an industrial cleaning agency would be worth the expense to protect yourself - your asthma - it's up to you though
I haven't been around much lately - I sprained my ankle a week ago - it's starting to feel okay - I did the RICE thing - Rest, Ice, Compression and Elevation - all of them were easy but for the rest part - if I sit still for two long my back lets me know - but it is feeling better tonight and the bruises - technicolour - are coming out and spreading around - I'm going to Hobart in a couple of weeks and I want to be better by then but I am going anyway
It was my Dad's birthday today - he's been gone 7 years - he would have been turning 98 today - I miss him but we were on good terms and I remember the jokes we had - some of them repetitive and long running - this drove my mother crackers - but still - I can assure you that the bad time you are having grieving right now does pass - we just need to swim fast through the tears to get to the other side
Thinking of you heaps Lapses and sending lots of love
Dec
