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@Decadian Yes you do need support at times and now you have somewhere to ask for it 

I really don't know much of your story. I know how much you spoil your gd - which reminds me so much of my own Nan and how close we were - so I suppose I relate in some small way because of this. Now I also know about your son who would now be only a year older than me. I hope this doesn't offend you but it feels a bit like a part of my own Nan is now living within the forum also.

I have nowhere near the same issues with my family but I have always been the one to try and 'solve' all their issues and now I just don't have it in me anymore. I protected my Mum and sister from my Dad when I was young and copped the full brunt of his anger. I have resolved that with my Dad because I finally stood up for myself and threatened legal action. We have been a lot closer since but still quite distant with all my family. My sister and I used to be close but I just can't deal with her life and find any peace in my own so I keep my distance.

When your family is such hard work to be around it places starin on all aspects of your life. This is when I really miss my Nan because she was my best friend and the only person I have ever had unconditional and supportive (non-judgemental) love from. She died 20 years ago. It is nearly the 20 year anniversary of my Pop's death also - but that is another story.

Sorry Dec - I've taken over your story a bit - but that might give you a little background from where I'm coming from also - can relate in small ways re family.